![]() ![]() What if we forget about the final outcome? We cannot fully predict what will come of our effort, we only have a rough idea. We focus only on the result: "What if I fail? What if it goes wrong." And all the negative scenarios flood into our minds. Sometimes, we are so caught up in working on an important task that we lose contact with the effort we've put in. Focus only on what's important, and keep the rest on the back burner.Īsk yourself: "Are all the things I worry about right now equally significant? If I could put them in order, what would be number one?" The ability to work on something without seeing the results Prioritise tasks based on what matters right now and what doesn't. Time-wise and energy-wise, it is just not possible.Ĭhoose your battles. The need for self-protection is very strong in people with anxiety, however, it backfires when we struggle 24/7, even with the least important tasks in our lives. When we want to be prepared for all possibilities, it makes sense for us to try and cover our bases. ![]() Juggling with more balls than we can handle is a sure way to experience stress and anxiety. Am I ready to defend myself if something goes wrong? Am I willing to own my decisions?" The ability to choose your battles You are only human.Īsk yourself: "I did my best. Defend yourself and your side of the story. I did my best." or "I am sorry but that seemed like the right decision at the time". What about we stop putting all the blame on ourselves and accept the story as it is. They blame themselves for mistakes or neglect. It is quite common for people with anxiety to ruminate over worst-case scenarios. Can I let go for now and see what will happen tomorrow?" The ability to defend your story And there's nothing wrong with that.Īsk yourself: "I cannot do anything right now to change what is. We are responsible for only half of what's happening around us (at times even less) and there are situations where we can only wait and see. ![]() Having control over everything is beyond our ability. There are circumstances where we don't know what will happen tomorrow, neither the outcome of our actions or what the decisions of others will be. The ability to tolerate and accept uncertainty No one has mastered all of them - we are all trying our best. And we can all work on these skills, a little bit every day, and some skills more than others. We all have these skills, each and every one of us, to a different degree. It's not "you either have it or you don’t". In order to build new pathways, we need to develop some specific skills.Īttention: don't go into "all or nothing" thinking, saying to yourself "I don't have that skill, so I will never beat anxiety". We are actually rewiring our brain: changing the neuron pathways that have existed in our brains since childhood. Not because there is something wrong with us, or because we are doing it the wrong way, but because it is something that requires a lot of conscious effort, time, practice and a great deal of mental energy. Defeating anxiety, stress, negative thoughts, procrastination and fears has never been easy. ![]()
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